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Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Preparing for Travels: 2 Mamas, 2 Toddlers and 2 Babes


This is what life looks like right now; lists and spreadsheets and emails outlining travel plans.  Robyn and I and our four children set off for Calgary in a week and the amount of preparation is mind boggling.

You can tell this is a list written by mamas because we had to include bras and underwear so we wouldn't forget them.

Wish us luck.
A

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Kudos to all the Single Mamas Out There


So Simon has officially been gone for two weeks today, we have another 11 days until our family is glued back together in Canmore, Alberta.  Some days seem to fly by and I forget that I'm single parenting a three year old and a 5 month old, while other days drag on and I watch the clock waiting for bed time. These days I feel as though I'll scream.  Loneliness lingers throughout the day but catches up with me at night when I realize how much I miss my partner but also just how much I'm missing.

I have to admit though, I have it much easier than most single moms because:

a) I have a good partner

b) I have an incredible community of friends and family.  Like, an unbelievable community. Grandmas/grandpas, aunts and uncles, cousins and friends who soften the blow.

c) It's temporary.

I wonder though, if all moms of young kids are going through this feeling of single parenting.  We're all sorta sitting on the sidelines of our partners careers waiting for our time, even if we do go back to work, we still prioritize family first.  I am doing this and not begrudgingly, don't get me wrong.  I love my kids, they're a total pain in the ass, but I love them.  Sometimes though I can't help but feel like everything in my life is stalled and learning to live with this can be a challenge, especially when your partners life is evolving and expanding and becoming something amazing, albeit, without you.

Learning to accept and love the space that I'm in right now has been my greatest challenge but I wonder if, when my children are grown, i'll look back and yearn for these days again, for the simple pleasures that make all the parenting hardships worth it.  I'm pretty sure I will.

A lot of love to all the struggling mamas out there.
xA

Monday, June 16, 2014

Full Steam Ahead


I realize how quiet it's been on the blogging front; slacking is an understatement.  Our family has been experiencing major changes; a new baby, a new juno, a wild tour schedule, a new home(s).  We've left Toronto and our little 1 bedroom apartment, that treated us quite well for the past 5 years, put our life in storage and moved in to the family farm house.

To say that our kid's quality of life has gotten better is an understatement; it has surged and gone off the charts.  Theo now spends his days with his cousins, playing outside until dusk when the bugs are nibbling at his ear lobes and his feet are coated in a fine layer of dirt and Frankie is surrounded by the chattering of little voices and an endless supply of arms to cuddle her.

We are lucky.

For about a thousand reasons.

Here's 3.

1. We have family that loves us enough to put up with us invading their space like a bull in a china shop.

2.  We have family that bends over backwards to love our kids, one example being this past weekend. Simon's fam took Theo to a cottage for the entire weekend and cared for him and loved him and played with him so that us parents (+ Frankie) could get away and be together and listen to music and drink beer and pretend for just a minute, that we were 20 again...

3. Simon has an amazingly awesome festival schedule coming up that includes Yellowknife, Salmon Arm and Fernie, to name a few and that we get to go with!! The whole fam will be out on the west coast for the month of August.  It will be crazy and there will be meltdowns and temper tantrums and when we get back, we'll likely need a vacation to recover but it will be the thing that memories are made of.  I mean, how often do you get to tour the country with your dad's folk band?

So keep checking in cause this summer is gonna be a good one.
x

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

The Birth of Frances Pearl

So this happened...

On Monday March 3, a cool week before her due date, we welcomed our freshest little one, Frances Pearl.  Right here at home in bed just the same as we did with her little bro just three years earlier.  I'll be honest, Frances was a complete surprise baby, I actually found out that I was pregnant while on tour with Simon in Vancouver, talk about a vacation bummer.  Frances' pregnancy was much harder, having a busy two year old and a hectic tour schedule made for lots of tears and tantrums; me and not Theo.  Nevertheless, we managed and at 9:30 am, after about 8 hours of labor and to a room full of women Frances was born, screaming and mad as hell, feisty like her mom already.

Here's our wee girl's birth story if you're into that sorta thing.

At about 12:30 am, a gush of water woke me from a deep sleep.  At first I thought I wet the bed and then I thought, crap, I wish I had put the plastic sheets on the bed and then it hit me that I was in fact going in to labor early!  Now I was pregnant for an eternity with Theo; real time 41 weeks and 3 days so to be going in to labor roughly a week and half before my due date was pretty much the best thing ever.  Simon was out at a music thing so a phone call later, he was on route, while waiting for him to get home I wandered from room to room, I was calm and excited.  I also called Laura and gave her a heads up, not much was happening as the contractions were mild so I told her I'd check in in a bit and we both decided to head back to bed and to get as much sleep as possible.

At about 2:30 am, the contractions were getting more and more intense and I was having a hard time sleeping through them.  I woke Simon up and we decided to call the midwife (anyone seen that show??)and my sister.  At this time I decided to take a bath thinking that the warm water might move things along, the contractions were manageable but slightly painful.  While in the bath, my midwife Corinne and her student Sarah arrived as well as Laura,  I was checked and was only 2-3 cm which was discouraging because I had woken up three very sleepy women to drive across Toronto at 2 in the morning for early labor.  But lucky for me, my birth team was a solid one; we had tea, they rubbed my back and gave me words of reassurance.  Corinne suggested I go back to bed for a bit and the four of us camped out my room; Laura and I sleeping side by side and the midwives at the foot of the bed couting my contractions as I slept.  It was then that the labor tapered off, contractions went from being every 3 minutes to every 7.  At 7 am, Corinne and Sarah decided to go for breakfast and to check on another patient.  Laura ran me a bath and brought me tea while I laboured in the tub listening to Theo watching cartoons, the contractions becoming more and more intense.

I remember being very concerned about Theo at this point, though he was oblivious to what was going on, I knew I didn't want him to stay while I laboured.  Simon called his sister Meg and asked her to come and get the little gaffer, while out I asked him to pick up some ginger-ale because an ice cold gingie was something I couldn't stop thinking about.  Just as Simon left, the contractions were getting intense, Laura was pushing hard on my lower back which relieved some of the pain and I found the only position bearable was on all fours; which is what got me into this predicament in the first place.

Around 9:15 am, the midwives arrived and I was checked again, they told me I was about 5 cm which was soul crushing because I was so tired and in so much pain.  Almost immediately after being checked I had two really good mind blowingly painful contractions,  that I think I'll remember till I'm 85, to which I heard Laura say; "Amy, the head!! the head is out! Keep going!..." what's next is a blur but then little Frankie was put on my chest, screaming like hell.

About 10 minutes later, after the placenta had been birthed and Frances was chattering away to us about her journey, Simon ran in thinking we were watching a movie with a baby in it, he was blown away to realize she was here.  Laura told him it was a girl and the look on his face is one that i'll remember forever.

So there it is, that's the story of how little Frankie Pearl came along.  To say she's great, is an understatement.  She has brought all this amazing craziness to our life in the best and most wonderful way.    

Thanks for reading.
x

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Spring 2014

From the country...


So we have been lost in space for a while, but there are many exciting happenings around here. Amelia is moving on home to the farm (at least for the summer while Simon is touring with the Strumbellas).This old farm house will be rocking with a big brood of kids! Speaking of kids,we welcomed baby Frances Pearl in March- another girl to the mix! So we will be posting more often with our new adventures on the farm and Amelia's adventures touring with the band across Canada in mid summer with a toddler and a new lil' one. I of course,will be here on the farm plugging away and periodically updating our life here. Stay tuned...

Saturday, December 7, 2013

Some tips on how to cook your holiday heritage turkey.

From the country...
There certainly are a lot of opinions on how to cook that holiday bird.  Brining vs. not brining, larding vs. rubbing w/ fat, trussing vs not trussing, to stuff or not to stuff. Rest assured though, you can get good results with any of these techniques, if applied correctly.

Brining
A little difficult to do at home especially with large birds but if this is attempted, it is much better to err on the side of not enough brine time than too much brine time.  In the end, in my opinion, you want the bird to, almost, taste like it was not brined so that the natural flavours of the turkey will come through and not be disguised by herb/salt/citrus.  Just an ever so slight hint herb/salt/citrus is the ideal. - and, in particular, the salt aspect of the brine is more important to how it changes the cell structures than achieving a marinated-tasting bird (whereas the salt actually makes individual cells more elastic, enabling a juicer bird in the end, and being more forgiving if overcooked). A very important tip is to rinse, pat dry, and let the turkey rest, uncovered in the fridge, for 24 hours after brining. Click here for a low tech brining recipe
Larding
Heritage birds have more fat than standard birds but when roasting a whole turkey, it is inevitable that the white meat will cook quicker than the dark meat.  A couple of tricks here:
Soak a cloth in some sort of fat (butter will do nicely, or melted duck/chicken/pork fat) and drape over the breast.  Leave the cloth there for the first 1/3 of cooking, then remove to allow breast skin to crisp up. 
Another good trick is to have some softened butter and rub the breast well with this, under the skin.
Trussing
I like to leave legs untrussed, which allows them to cook a bit quicker.  I like to tie the wings in tight to slow down the cooking of the breasts a wee bit.
Stuffing
I wouldn’t recommend stuffing your bird you’re planning to brine, instead make it on your stove top.  Stuffing in a brined bird can be too salty otherwise.  A real turkey pure-ist would say that you can't get your stuffing up to a proper temp without compromising the breast meat (ie overcooking your bird). 
However, in my opinion, there's nothing more classic than pulling out that perfectly roasted turkey, complete with stuffing in both cavities.  Having that cloth draped over the breasts will help you achieve these good results.
 
What I’m planning to do this year to my heritage holiday bird:
 
  • Take turkey out of bag asap and let rest, uncovered, in fridge for as long as possible (up to a week is just fine, and a day or two will help too)
  • ·      The night before I roast it, I'll rub all over w/ salt and pepper (inside cavity too);  this is a bit of a cheat, giving you somewhat similar results as brining does (a lil' bit anyways)
  • ·      Heat oven to 450
  • ·      Gently lift skin from breast, and rub breast directly w/ softened butter (can be seasoned w/ herb too)
  • ·      Stuff both cavities (and it's better to under-season the stuffing, considering the cavity is rubbed down with salt and pepper already - can always be adjusted afterwards)
  • ·      Tie wings in tight to breast
  • ·      Drape a butter-soaked cheesecloth over the breast
  • ·      Put into your hot oven (450) for 5-10 minutes
  • ·      Reduce oven to 300, and continue roasting for about 20-25 minutes to the pound; remove cloth after 1/3 of cooking time.
  • ·      I don't usually bother with basting; I just don’t see the need!
  • ·      Remove bird when cooked to your liking (I go to 160 F, tested in the thigh); 
  • ·      Let rest 30 minutes before carving, in a warm spot, covered w/ foil tent (or something similar)
  • ·      Remove stuffing, put into a pot/casserole, and bring to temp, gently, on stove top or in oven
  • ·      Make gravy while stuffing is heating, and bird is resting
. We hope that this little bit of cooking advice helps when preparing your holiday bird.
 
Please visit our farm website if you are interested in ordering a bird for the holidays.

Happy Holidays!


Thursday, August 22, 2013

Travelling with Toddlers


From the City...
Traveling with two toddlers is sorta like being stuck with your drunk friends at the end of the night.  It is exhausting, embarrassing at the best of times (think all out tantrums lying on the floor of the airport while you check luggage and your child telling everyone that they're "yucky") and I hate to say it, completely challenging and um, sorta un-fun.  Our vacation out west was less vacation and more like dragging our kids across the country to see their dads who were in the middle of a four week tour cross Canada tour. 
Never the less we bucked up and rose to the challenge, as good mama's often do. 
Here's the two little demons at the airport as we leave Toronto for Vancouver.  

Here's when we finally caught up with the Dad's in Whistler before their festival.  I have to admit, Whistler was the highlight of the trip for everyone.  We had a great room with a kitchen so we could cook some real meals, the shows they played were amazing and we even hired a babysitter so the mama's could go out for a bit.

Side note; If anyone has ever wondered about the inside of a band van that's driven across the country before with six smoking, drinking band members; trust me, it's not nearly as glamorous as you may believe. 
Think feet, old coffee cups and the lingering smell of the armpits. 
Ugh.
There are two hours over the course of seven days where these two didn't fight and were tolerable around each other. This is either hour 1 or 2.
Not too shabby. From Whistler back to Vancouver.
Vancouver Aquarium. 
Maddy face in the hotel.  Post bath, Pre nap time.
















Cherries on Granville Island.  
Playing with Daddy at Bear Creek Studio in Seattle. 

So we survived the trip (thanks to wine) and the todd's got to see their papas in the middle of our longest tour yet.  I think I'd consider that a success, a great success.

-amelia
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